“How To Get Back The Man You Fell In Love With (Or Even A Better Version Of Him) In 30-Days Or Less, Without Dragging Him To Therapy…
…Even If You’ve Tried Everything and Failed!”
From: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Author, “The Husband Bootcamp”
To: YOU, the Devoted Wife,
If your marriage is suffering from a lack of intimacy…increased fighting…even disconnection?
…if you know that you have a good man who’s attention you can’t seem to attract anymore and you need a better alternative than expensive, ineffective therapy, then this message is for you.
Here’s why:
There is a way to restore your marriage, get back the man you fell in love, and get back that loving and harmonious relationship with the connection and affection that you had when you first met.
But, you need to realize that there is a cost to not dealing with this right away…
If You Don’t Do Something About It, It Just Gets Worse
Here are the subtle hints:
Typically, spouses first tend to ignore the signs of trouble, hoping the issues will work themselves out… one or both promising to change over and over, making small progress, then regressing to the same behavior. …making small steps forward, only to fall back.None of this works.
- This leads to a build-up of resentment and hurt.
- It undermines the feelings of connection from both spouses.
- And it leads to further relational disintegration.
- It’s almost like doing nothing, but worse…
And what happens if you just do nothing? If you just keep doing what you’ve been doing? You keep getting less intimacy, less connection, less peace… until one day you have enough and finally do the unthinkable and break up your family..
How I Discovered The Secrets
Of A Healthy Marriage
After 3 decades of working with couples, I had heard it all before. But this time, it seemed to be in every session.
First, John. He looked like he had taken a gut-punch when he heard his wife. “You aren’t a bad man,” she told him, “But you aren’t a good husband.” John and Sue were sitting on my couch, trying to unwind the hurt and pain. As much as he wanted to be in a good marriage – to be a good spouse – John just couldn’t make the changes Sue was hoping for.
Then came Paul. He was talking to me on a phone call. “Why can’t I just get it together,” he asked? His marriage was not where he wanted it to be, with lots of pain from past struggles. Then Paul suddenly shifted to a whisper, “I have no idea what I am doing here. My father was never around, and when he was, they were fighting. How am I supposed to know how to be a good husband?”
Then, when I met with Alex, he told me that every day, he was terrified. Was he going to make another mistake? Was he going to have a “PO’d wife,” as he called it? Would he feel like a failure again? The result: he was scared to do anything… which ironically led to a pissed off spouse.
First, John. He looked like he had taken a gut-punch when he heard his wife. “You aren’t a bad man,” she told him, “But you aren’t a good husband.” John and Sue were sitting on my couch, trying to unwind the hurt and pain. As much as he wanted to be in a good marriage – to be a good spouse – John just couldn’t make the changes Sue was hoping for.
Then came Paul. He was talking to me on a phone call. “Why can’t I just get it together,” he asked? His marriage was not where he wanted it to be, with lots of pain from past struggles. Then Paul suddenly shifted to a whisper, “I have no idea what I am doing here. My father was never around, and when he was, they were fighting. How am I supposed to know how to be a good husband?”
Then, when I met with Alex, he told me that every day, he was terrified. Was he going to make another mistake? Was he going to have a “PO’d wife,” as he called it? Would he feel like a failure again? The result: he was scared to do anything… which ironically led to a pissed off spouse.
I’ve heard those same things over and over:
- Good men, but failing as husbands.
- Not knowing what to do to be a good husband.
- Desperate to be a better husband… and terrified of failing again.
Could that be true with YOUR husband?
Perhaps he wants to be a good husband, but doesn’t know how… and doesn’t know what to do to figure that out!
Perhaps he wants to be a good husband, but doesn’t know how… and doesn’t know what to do to figure that out!
This is an interesting moment in history, and many men really haven’t had a chance to even witness what it means to be a good husband. It’s kind of a function of history.
With nearly 50% of marriages ending in divorce, around half of men grew up in broken homes. They didn’t see good examples of spousal interaction. And many in intact families had fathers who were often absent, with work or other interests. Spousal interactions were sparse. And many of the truly significant interactions were not in the open. You couldn’t even see the good stuff happening!
As one man told me, “The discussions I did hear were loud and angry. I never knew how they talked when they weren’t angry. I guess it was the volume problem. The good talks were too quiet to hear. The bad talks were too loud to miss.”
But what if being a good husband is really about learning some skills? In other words, what if you could learn to be a good husband? Even if you never had a good model. Even if you don’t know how right now?
Guess what? That is exactly the case. Being a good husband amounts to:
- Knowledge.
- Skills.
- Action.
A husband needs to understand what it means to be a good husband and have a great marriage. He needs to have the skills of a great husband. And then, it’s a matter of acting on the knowledge and skills.
Someone who wants to be a great husband just needs the knowledge and skills, then take action. 1, 2, 3. The steps to being not just a good, but a great, husband!
What would that mean for you?
What would it mean to have:
- A loving marriage, full of warmth and connection,
- A happy spouse who loves and respects you,
- A peaceful home, where both of you (and your children) can thrive,
- A legacy to pass on to future generations, of what it means to be a great husband?
You can!
Here’s a little secret:
Most men struggle with confidence… and that even keeps them from learning what it takes to gain confidence.
Here is a common situation that has only changed recently, thanks to the smartphone: your husband is driving along… not knowing how to get there and kind of perturbed that you are even noticing it (that is embarrassment, coming from wanting to be/feel competent, but showing otherwise. Will he stop and ask for directions? Nope. No need. He will figure it out… thus proving his competence.
Except he can’t!
So, you waste time (and gas and energy) driving around, not because you don’t know where you want to be, but because he isn’t willing to ask for help. Why? Because that would amount to admitting “incompetence” (at least in his mind).
How do I know? Because I have been there.
And here is the funny thing: if you have never been somewhere, why would you know how to get there? But that is irrelevant to the feeling.
Which is why the GPS was such a popular purchase and gift. You didn’t need to stop and ask. You didn’t need to stumble around and get lost. You just punch the address in and follow the directions. No judgment, no ego bruise.
I remember how many times I would ride with some man who would have the GPS going, but kinda pretend that they didn’t need it, anyway. But there it was! Just follow the directions and arrive at the destination.
But how do you DO that, if the issue is not directions somewhere, but learning how to be a great spouse?
Let me tell you what I did with John, Paul, and Alex:
I made them an offer. “Give me a month, and I will give you the tools, knowledge, and skills you need for a lifetime of being a great husband… of helping create a great marriage!”
On the spot, out of desperation to make a difference in their lives, I created a Husband Bootcamp.
A fitness bootcamp is designed to give you a running start on fitness. Get in shape, then stay in shape. That’s what bootcamps do. They get you started on a path to be better. To be in better shape with a fitness bootcamp.
The Husband Bootcamp is about being a better spouse and having a better marriage!
John, Paul, and Alex were interested. They DID want to be a better husband. All three were tired of feeling incompetent and incapable in their marriage. But what would it take for them to get there? What would the bootcamp look like? What would they have to do?
Before I tell you what I wanted from them, let me tell you about me.
When I was a kid, I had the good fortune of watching my parents work together as spouses to have a happy and satisfying marriage. Sure, they might disagree at times, but they worked it out. And both were very happy with their relationship (and still are, after nearly 60 years).
It wasn’t like that, though, for most of my cousins. I watched their families fall apart… and I watched the fallout of those broken homes. I still don’t have any relationship with some of my cousins, as they had to choose sides. I saw the pain and destruction of hurtful marriage, up close and personal.
In college, I knew I wanted to be a counselor, so I took sociology and psychology courses. One of my professors introduced me to the central idea of family therapy: families are a web of connection and relating… and problems happen when there is dysfunction in the relating.
So, during grad school (now over 30 years ago), I focused especially on learning how to help marriages and families. I learned the latest techniques in helping marriages, in addressing family dysfunction.
But to be honest, I was underwhelmed with what I saw in the therapy offices. Couples weren’t getting better. Families weren’t getting better.
What was wrong?
Was it me?
Was I a bad therapist?
Or was it the approach? Turns out, there are some pretty major issues with marital therapy. For example, research shows that about 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That is pretty much the same statistic for the general population. In fact, only about 15% of couples reported any improvement!
Was I at a dead-end for helping hurting marriages? I didn’t think so.
So, I put on my researcher’s hat and started hunting for better answers and more helpful approaches. That led to my own approach.
Suddenly, marriages were improving. Couples were happier and more contented. Love was coming back to troubled marriages.
That was over 2 decades ago. Since, I have continued to refine my approach, working with thousands of couples from around the world. I’ve written a number of books (7, so far) about how to thrive in life and in your marriage. I host 2 podcasts on those same topics. And I personally coach a small number of select couples and individuals each year.
Oh, and I have been happily married to the same person since 1988. We’ve weathered some tough days together. We’ve raised 2 children (both now adults). And we still are connected, loving, and looking forward to growing old together.
It wasn’t like that, though, for most of my cousins. I watched their families fall apart… and I watched the fallout of those broken homes. I still don’t have any relationship with some of my cousins, as they had to choose sides. I saw the pain and destruction of hurtful marriage, up close and personal.
In college, I knew I wanted to be a counselor, so I took sociology and psychology courses. One of my professors introduced me to the central idea of family therapy: families are a web of connection and relating… and problems happen when there is dysfunction in the relating.
So, during grad school (now over 30 years ago), I focused especially on learning how to help marriages and families. I learned the latest techniques in helping marriages, in addressing family dysfunction.
But to be honest, I was underwhelmed with what I saw in the therapy offices. Couples weren’t getting better. Families weren’t getting better.
What was wrong?
Was it me?
Was I a bad therapist?
Or was it the approach? Turns out, there are some pretty major issues with marital therapy. For example, research shows that about 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That is pretty much the same statistic for the general population. In fact, only about 15% of couples reported any improvement!
Was I at a dead-end for helping hurting marriages? I didn’t think so.
So, I put on my researcher’s hat and started hunting for better answers and more helpful approaches. That led to my own approach.
Suddenly, marriages were improving. Couples were happier and more contented. Love was coming back to troubled marriages.
That was over 2 decades ago. Since, I have continued to refine my approach, working with thousands of couples from around the world. I’ve written a number of books (7, so far) about how to thrive in life and in your marriage. I host 2 podcasts on those same topics. And I personally coach a small number of select couples and individuals each year.
Oh, and I have been happily married to the same person since 1988. We’ve weathered some tough days together. We’ve raised 2 children (both now adults). And we still are connected, loving, and looking forward to growing old together.
It Worked For These People And
It Will Work For You Too
“Radically different…I finally have hope..
My marriage has been in trouble for years. I’ve read other books. . . your ideas are radically different from the others. I’ve never read anything like it. Now, things are improving. I finally have hope!” – Brad R.
“A dramatic turn around!
What a dramatic turn around! Our relationship is 180 degrees reversed and moving in the RIGHT
direction! Thank you so much!” – Nancy T.
Here Is Just Some Of What We Cover In The 30-Day Husband Book Camp…
- How to use the little-known “WE” concept to change the way you see your relationship so you can quickly disarm your marriage's competitive nature, which means you’ll fight less, respect each other more, and begin to realign with each other again.
- How to “unpause” a marriage and restore the 3 levels of connection so that you don’t starve the relationship which means neither of you will ever have to go anywhere else to get the connection that humans are wired for.
- Go inside a spouse’s mind and crack the “Love Language Code” so that you know exactly how a spouse wants to be loved which means you’ll never have to guess what your spouse wants for love again.
- How to set clear personal boundaries, the “no’s” so others know exactly how you expect to be treated which means you’ll reestablish a strong relationship and develop the rare ability to defuse an issue FAST!
- A step-by-step explanation on how to develop CLEAR standards, so that you know what YOU expect from yourself which means you’ll know how to treat people especially your spouse.
- How to use marital boundaries to actually free the relationship of restrictions so that you and your spouse feel secure, prepared, and protected.
- How to use a “Marital Mission Statement” to connect spiritually with your spouse, which means you’ll have direction and a sense of where your marriage is going so you don’t feel so lost.
- How to go from crisis to calm so when a crisis inevitably hits, you pivot from “ME” to “WE” mode which means you’ll pull together as a team and not apart as individuals.
And That’s Only What We’ll Cover In The First Few Days, There’s More…
- How a husband can use the “3 Levels of Empathy” and “Listen with the third ear” so that you can actually hear how the other people is feeling which means you’ll ultimately be able to work though tough situations and work as one rather than against each other.
- How to use conflict to actually strengthen your marriage and not create useless arguments that lead to hurt and resentment.
- How your husband can uncover and heal the Core Wounds so that he doesn't act from a “false self” and restrict himself from operating as his best self.
- How to use a “true apology” (and possibly an apology letter) to take responsibility for your mistakes rather than play the blame game which means the relationship can begin to heal.
- An so much more..
It all comes as part of the The Husband Bootcamp.
But what can YOU do, as the spouse, wanting a better husband?
Let me be honest: many times, a man wants to be better, but doesn’t know how, doesn’t look for help, and doesn’t take action. But the desire is there!
Nobody wants to be lost. But that doesn’t make a man pull over to ask directions. Which is why many spouses bought their husband a GPS before they just came as part of most phones. And that is why most men used the GPS when it was given. They wanted to get there, wanted to not be embarrassed, but did not buy it themselves.
No, you won’t make it far telling your husband how to get there. Then, you stir the feelings of incompetence and competition. But you CAN give your husband membership in the Bootcamp. It is kind of like buying the GPS. If you gift it and just ask for your husband to go through it, then the info is there (in private, anonymously) to get exactly where he wants to be – to be a competent and capable spouse!
And you are 100% safe to try this out.
That’s all I’m suggesting. Ask your spouse to try The Husband Bootcamp. Let him have access, then let him take it from there.
If he does, you’ll be delighted – and I think that’s exactly what’s about to happen. If for some reason he is not delighted with the new loving marriage, full of warmth and connection, then just let me know – and you get all your money back.
Act Immediately And I’ll Include The Following Bonuses
Since we know it’s 100% to your benefit to act right away, we want to sweeten the pot and give you every possible reason to say YES today! If you respond immediately, you’ll also receive the following:
FREE BONUS #1:
“The Thrive Journal + Audio Training”
Break bad habits ad revitalize your marriage with The Thrive Journal.
Total Value: $197
FREE BONUS #2:
“The Forgive Process Book + Audio Training “
As a member of the Husband Bootcamp, both of you will get access to my book free plus my audio training of my acclaimed Forgive Process, so you can move beyond the stuck points in life.
Total Value: $297
FREE BONUS #3:
“Private Facebook Group”
Your husband can choose to be a part of the “members-only” Facebook group so he can meet and support other husbands just like him going through the process.
It’s a great place for fellowship and to bounce ideas off of one another.
It’s a great place for fellowship and to bounce ideas off of one another.
Total Value: $397
FREE BONUS #4:
“Daily Cheatsheets”
I also included a daily CheatSheet to make sure he gets and remembers the most important points.
He can always return for a refresher, too, to nail down the new you.
He can always return for a refresher, too, to nail down the new you.
Total Value: $197
FREE BONUS #5:
“6-Month VIP Members Only Audio Training”
He gets instant access to high-level training that is only available to my VIP members at any other time.
These weekly audio trainings will arrive once a week for 6 months (and a few extra for good measure!).
These are specially curated just for him.
These weekly audio trainings will arrive once a week for 6 months (and a few extra for good measure!).
These are specially curated just for him.
Total Value: $997
It’s Decision Time
You have a choice to make: Do what you’ve both been doing (or worse, do nothing at all). You know where that will lead. Stuck. Frustrated. Disconnected. Failing.
Is that really where you want to go?
There is another option: Take a new action, and get a new result.
Get back to the love, connection, and peace you both want. Restore your marriage and regain your confidence. Discover the hidden power of your marriage. Help your husband be the great husband he aspires to be (but doesn’t know how).
Here’s what to do now… fill in the form below and give The Husband Bootcamp to your husband right now!
I look forward to seeing your husband inside!
Get back to the love, connection, and peace you both want. Restore your marriage and regain your confidence. Discover the hidden power of your marriage. Help your husband be the great husband he aspires to be (but doesn’t know how).
Here’s what to do now… fill in the form below and give The Husband Bootcamp to your husband right now!
I look forward to seeing your husband inside!
Your Husband Will Get Full and Immediate Access to the Below When You Sign to Husband Bootcamp Today!
- 30-Day Husband Bootcamp (Value $1,997)
- FREE BONUS #1: The Thrive Journal + Audio Training (Value $197)
- FREE BONUS #2: The Forgiveness Process Book + Audio Training “ (Value $297)
- FREE BONUS #3: Private Facebook Group” (Value $397)
- FREE BONUS #4: Six months VIP Members Only Audio Training” (Value $997)
- FREE BONUS #5: Cheatsheets (Value $197)
Total Value: $4,082
Your Price Today ONLY:
3 Easy Payments of just $149.00 USD
3 Easy Payments of just $149.00 USD
Satisfaction is assured through our no risk, you-can’t-lose, 100%, no-questions-asked, iron-clad money-back guarantee. If for any reason, you both aren’t thrilled and satisfied with your purchase, contact us within 30 Days and we’ll refund 100% of your purchase price.
Faithfully,
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Relationship Coach and Marriage Expert
Relationship Coach and Marriage Expert
P.S. — This gem will be sold for $997.00. This introductory price of $447.00 is a “Buy it NOW before it’s gone” offer… so act fast!…
P.P.S. — Let’s be blunt: If you pass on this offer, will you have the marriage that you desire? Probably not! You’ll still wish and want it, but you’ll continue going round and round the proverbial hamster wheel.
P.P.P.S. – Yes, I really DO believe that nearly every single husband wants to be a great husband. And most will never take the steps to figure it out (and many don’t want to be told by a spouse what to do). But if there is a roadmap… a GPS to get there, they will follow it! YOU can buy the GPS, and let your spouse get there.
Act now! Buy now! Your satisfaction is guaranteed.
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