What most women do when facing relational disintegration and unhappy spouses typically tend to ignore the signs, hoping the issues will work themselves out… promising to change over and over, making small progress, then regressing to the same behavior. …make small steps forward, only to fall back… none of this works.
And what happens if you just do nothing? If you just keep doing what you’ve been doing? You keep getting less intimacy, less connection, less peace… until one day you have enough and finally do the unthinkable and break up your family..
How I Discovered The Secrets
Of A Healthy Marriage
I’ve got an answer that works.
Here’s the story:
After 3 decades of working with couples, I had heard it before. But this time, it seemed to be in every session.
First, John. He looked like he had taken a gut-punch when he heard his wife. “You aren’t a bad man,” she told him, “But you aren’t a good husband.” John and Sue were sitting on my couch, trying to unwind the hurt and pain. As much as he wanted to be in a good marriage, John just couldn’t make the changes Sue was hoping for.
Then came Paul. He was talking to me on a phone call. “Why can’t I just get it together,” he asked? His marriage was not where he wanted it to be, with lots of pain from past struggles. Then Paul suddenly shifted to a whisper, “I have no idea what I am doing here. My father was never around, and when he was, they were fighting. How am I supposed to know how to be a husband?”
Then, when I met with Alex, he told me that every day, he was terrified. Was he going to make another mistake? Was he going to have a “PO’d wife,” as he called it? Would he feel like a failure again? The result: he was scared to do anything… which ironically led to a pissed off spouse.
I’ve heard those same things over and over:
How about you? Are you the husband you want to be? That your spouse wants you to be?
This is an interesting moment in history, and many men really haven’t had a chance to even witness what it means to be a good husband. It’s kind of a function of history.
With nearly 50% of marriages ending in divorce, around half of men grew up in broken homes. They didn’t see good examples of spousal interaction. And many in intact families had fathers who were often absent, with work or other interests. Spousal interactions were sparse. And many of the truly significant interactions were not in the open. You couldn’t even see the good stuff happening!
As one man told me, “The discussions I did hear were loud and angry. I never knew how they talked when they weren’t angry. I guess it was the volume problem. The good talks were too quiet to hear. The bad talks were too loud to miss.”
But what if being a good husband is really about learning some skills? In other words, what if you could learn to be a good husband? Even if you never had a good model. Even if you don’t know how right now?
Guess what? That is exactly the case. Being a good husband amounts to:
You have to understand what it means to be a good husband and have a great marriage. You need to have the skills of a great husband. And then, you just have to act on the knowledge and skills.
You just need the knowledge and skills, then take action. 1, 2, 3. The steps to being not just a good, but a great, husband!
What would that mean for you?
What would it mean to have:
Let me tell you what I did with John, Paul, and Alex.
I made them an offer. “Give me a month, and I will give you the tools, knowledge, and skills you need for a lifetime of being a great husband… of helping create a great marriage!”
On the spot, out of desperation to make a difference in their lives, I created a Husband Bootcamp.
A fitness bootcamp is designed to give you a running start on fitness. Get in shape, then stay in shape. That’s what bootcamps do. They get you started on a path to be better. To be in better shape with a fitness bootcamp.
John, Paul, and Alex were interested. They DID want to be a better husband. All three were tired of feeling incompetent and incapable in their marriage. But what would it take for them to get there? What would the bootcamp look like? What would they have to do?
Before I tell you what I wanted from them, let me tell you about me.
When I was a kid, I had the good fortune of watching my parents work together as spouses to have a happy and satisfying marriage. Sure, they might disagree at times, but they worked it out. And both were very happy with their relationship (and still are, after nearly 60 years).
It wasn’t like that, though, for most of my cousins. I watched their families fall apart… and I watched the fallout of those broken homes. I still don’t have any relationship with some of my cousins, as they had to choose sides. I saw the pain and destruction of hurtful marriage, up close and personal.
In college, I knew I wanted to be a counselor, so I took sociology and psychology courses. One of my professors introduced me to the central idea of family therapy: families are a web of connection and relating… and problems happen when there is dysfunction in the relating.
So, during grad school (now over 30 years ago), I focused especially on learning how to help marriages and families. I learned the latest techniques in helping marriages, in addressing family dysfunction.
But to be honest, I was underwhelmed with what I say in the therapy offices. Couples weren’t getting better. Families weren’t getting better.
What was wrong?
Was it me? Was I a bad therapist?
Or was it the approach?
Turns out, there are some pretty major issues with marital therapy. For example, research shows that about 50% of couples who go to therapy still end up divorced. That is pretty much the same statistic for the general population. In fact, only about 15% of couples reported any improvement!
Was I at a dead-end for helping hurting marriages?
I didn’t think so.So, I put on my researcher’s hat and started hunting for better answers and more helpful approaches. That led to my Save The Marriage approach. Suddenly, marriages were improving. Couples were happier and more contented. Love was coming back to troubled marriages.
That was over 2 decades ago. Since, I have continued to refine my approach, working with thousands of couples from around the world. I’ve written a number of books (7, so far) about how to thrive in life and in your marriage. I host 2 podcasts on those same topics. And I personally coach a small number of select couples and individuals each year.
Oh, and I have been happily married to the same person since 1988. We’ve weathered some tough days together. We’ve raised 2 children (both now adults). And we still are connected, loving, and looking forward to growing old together.
It Worked For These People And
It Will Work For You Too
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It’s Decision Time
You have a choice to make: Do what you’ve been doing (or worse, do nothing at all). You know where that will lead. Stuck. Frustrated. Disconnected. Failing.
Is that really where you want to go?
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